Disclaimer: The contents of this blog are (c)2009 Hey, Sally Fry. Names have been changed to protect the innocent, the not-so-innocent, and the guilty as hell. Take my advice at your own risk.
Have you ever felt like you are losing your mind? I know that I certainly have, and still do from time to time. And I most assuredly did when I was going through my break-up(s) and divorce(s). What to do when you are overwhelmed with life, with divorce related issues (kid issues, money issues, moving, changing careers, etc...)? I highly recommend finding a good lawyer, a good psychotherapist, seeking a spiritual connection that works for you, and crying your guts out to your friends. Oh yeah, and get a massage - regularly! Take that pizza money and put it towards relieving the tension in your body. Trust me, no matter how broke I was (and believe me, I was "hide my car from the repo man b.r.o.k.e." during my divorce drama) I found a way to squeeze in time and money for at least a 15 minute massage! It probably saved my life and my mind. If you try to tough it out on your own you are either Wonder Woman or you are kidding yourself. In all likelihood you're probably not Wonder Woman, so that leaves you where? Who wants to be Wonder Woman anyway? She's highly overrated, and probably the fantasy brainchild of a guy who has a completely screwed up mom and an unrealistic view of women in general. Instead just be you, and who you are is "Real Woman". Now there's a superhero for you. (da-dah-daah! superhero sounds play here) Able to leap over a mound of wadded up post-crying-jag used kleenex in a single bound (or two). Faster than a dead snail when she's depressed! Able to slug her way through each and every day, and scratch, claw, and crawl out of the pit of despair! It's a bird! It's a plane! It's Real Woman's hopes and dreams soaring high in the sky!! It's Real Woman!
Who the hell is Real Woman, you ask? Real Woman acknowledges when she feels like she is losing her mind. Real Woman figures out real fast when she's swimming in treacherous waters and grabs onto help by creating a support network that will ultimately keep her from drowning in those waters. Drowning in tears, fears, beers... And, let's face it, if you're gonna drown in any substance, besides Ben & Jerry's Karamel Sutra Ice Cream, drown in the comfort of your friends. That's what Real Woman would do. Real Woman cries, empathizes with others, screws up her checking account when she is freaked out about her marriage falling apart, and sometimes makes less than right decisions when she is stressed out. Real Woman has kids that have found out she is not perfect after all. Real Woman has fallen in love with Mr. Potential, married Mr. Wrong, and slept with Mr. Transition. Real Woman may feel like she is losing her mind at times, but deep down she somehow knows she'll be just fine.
Real Woman can laugh at herself in the midst of the most insane sh!tstorm. Real Woman has a normal waist size, and bags under her eyes. Real Woman is thankful for concealing make-up and good facial moisturizer. She makes mistakes yet still dreams of a bright future. Real Woman asks for help to heal and build a new life. Real Woman is me and you. Real Woman is my hero.
Sea Story: I recently met a real woman who is divorced and moved into a condominium complex that apparently houses a lot of divorcing/divorced people. Upon entering said complex her 12 year old son commented "This whole building smells like ice cream and tears." Insightful young man, I'd say, with an extremely sensitive olfactory system. I bet Real Woman lives there.
Lost Mind, Got Over It,
Sally Fry
Artist/Writer/Thinker/Voice
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Awesome post! This just saved my day.
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